It's also the email that sent me on a half-hour-long rant to two (very straight) guy friends here in San Francisco. The following week I received 400 emails, which was not only an overwhelming increase from my weekly average of 40-50, but it also yielded many of the nice men I was looking for. No photos where you have a manic gleam in your eye, or where you seem drunk or even where you're looking arty and contemplative (trust me, you just seem depressed). You want to meet guys who are attracted to you as you are. Don't give away where you currently live, work or go to school (college logos, for example), and NEVER show your home address. You could be at the top of a hike, riding a bike or just jumping in the air.
Amused, they listened patiently as I droned on about the objectification of women. About how all the men on were just looking for arm-candy-bimbos. A few hours later, after enduring the indignity of having them comb through my Facebook albums, they showed me the three photos to post. In my initial photos, my goal was to seem as hot as possible. Also: No photos in which you're holding something weird (ceramic animals, plastic baby dolls, snakes, etc.) or that have been through Instagram or Hipstamatic-style editing. Sure, the lighting is great in your bathroom, and your hair looks fabulous. Don't put yourself into a situation where he thinks you're dishonest at first sight. Sorry feline fans, but you don't want to be pegged as a crazy cat lady. You and your dog show you're active and down to earth. Many men like to be active and physical; you want to show you can keep up with them.
“Now, do you think it’s a little forward to have a picture of yourself in your bathing suit on your profile?
The name comes from the character Hello Nurse, who herself was named after a classic Vaudeville gag where an attractive, voluptuous woman in a nurse's uniform would walk across the stage, causing the guys present to call out: "Helloooo, " This Catch Phrase eventually extended to all the show's attractive womenand, for Dot, men. Fanservice, who's meant to provoke the same reactions in the audience, rather than other characters.
(There's considerable overlap, though.) See Chick Magnet and Even the Guys Want Him for the male version.
If a picture is worth a thousand words, then three well-chosen dating profile pictures can open up a lifetime of conversation with the love of your life!
A Practical Hint: Make sure you rotate your main profile photo every six weeks or so.
This will draw the attention of men who may have missed it or skipped over it the first time.
Don't Miss: "San Francisco" magazine's February 2011 dating issue it's chock full of juicy tips on dating in the new economy.
"Can you please send me a photo of you in a bikini? There will be no chance you can be pegged as crazy or high-maintenance on first glance.
I'd like to know what I'm getting before we meet up." That's an actual quote from an email I received on So in short, here are the dos and don'ts of profile photos: DON'T post photos where you look psycho. All of this says just says, "Please pay off my credit card debt." DON'T post photos that are 10 years old or don't look like the current you. DO post a full-body shot in which you are doing something athletic.
Thore, who broke up with her boyfriend Lenny last year — and then thought they were pregnant before learning it was a false-positive — says she isn’t thrilled to go back to online dating.
“I have a very, sordid past when it comes to online dating,” she says.
Make straight females fall for her as hard as the straight boys, and she'll be a case of Even the Girls Want Her. If she just dresses like one, it's Naughty Nurse Outfit.