No matter what, moving on after a relationship ends is hard.
There's no right answer here: rebounds can be healing for some, and self-destructive for others, so you need to decide if that’s the best thing for you — or if you’re just looking for a new nail, any nail you can get your hands on. Not just because you feel like you have to constantly be on during dates with someone new, but because getting to know someone is so damn time-consuming.
And it all feels even more time-consuming after you've just come out of a relationship where you knew everything about the person; and now, here you are, back to square one with someone new.
You know yourself much better than you did before your last relationship and subsequent breakup; and you'll want to inject that self-knowledge into every relationship you have going forward.
Traits that may have seemed OK in a partner before — like certain bad habits or prickly personality problems — probably just won't fly anymore. I have a friend who says that when you lose a nail, the best way to replace it is with another nail.
Just try to avoid crying too much on those first few dates. Depending on if and how you were burned by your last relationship, there’s a good chance that you’re going to feel skeptical, hesitant, and maybe even suspicious of every potential partner who crosses your path. Your gut knows exactly what you need right now, and exactly what you can handle.
So if your gut says something is off and it wants to go home and eat pizza, do that.
Face it: even if you felt like you needed to push yourself back out there in order to feel better, your wounds from your breakup aren’t completely healed.
You may find that you’re more sensitive to things you wouldn't have cared before your breakup, like unreturned texts or random comments about exes, and that’s fine.
And for many, that means getting back on the dating scene.